Heroes Apply Their Own Advice
Happy Humpday Hero,
I trust your week has been one of growth as life gently leads you to create the person you desire to be!
This Hero has been enjoying some mental space and stillness. These last 6 months in particular have been some of the most challenging times i've ever been through and as I reflect upon it for the most part I feel proud of myself for the way i've been handling it all. It feels like we have entered a time of stillness, receiving fresh vibrations, breaking new ground and are discovering new terrains.
During times like these I like to be reflective of what has transpired and get curious about the obstacles I feel I have traversed. Something that has been on my mind today is the idea about advice. What do you do when someone comes to you for advice? Do you give it? And how do you respond when the person who asked you for advice ignores your guidance?
I had a young man come to me a few weeks ago to talk about some things that he was experiencing in his romantic relationship while temptation from another had reared its ugly head. We spoke for a long time about the situation and afterward he was feeling much better and confident within himself to deal with it honestly and with integrity. I don't really believe in giving advice but have developed a way through working with clients to help them get clarity on what they are feeling confused about. That is to just ask questions. I feel most of the time people already have the answers within them, they just haven't accessed them yet so it's my job to help them see it - seeing as I am not them and i have no way of knowing anything about them, the only way to do it is to ask open ended questions and reflect the answers back to them with compassion so we can both see it clearly, together.
What came out of the conversation was that play had to be introduced into his relationship so that he could revive his connection. In the end he chose a different path, one that left him now displaced from a stable foundation and with a big mess to clean up. So it leaves me pondering today… How did that happen? Could I have been any different? Was what the moment demanded of me back when he asked? The answer is yes I was there to help him see something clearly and that Imay not ever know what that was, the truth is some of us learn the easy way and others learn the hard way some never learn at all! So it left me to get curious, what can imI take away from this? What did this moment actually give me?
My Hero reminded me in this time becoming still and receiving that it's important to play in my own life. See that was the advice i thought i was giving to my young friend however have you ever noticed the advice you think you should give others is the exact advice you must hear. If only you had the awareness to always listen to yourself, this superpower tunes you into everything you need to create the life you desire because all the answers you ask of the world are hidden in the last place you'd think to look for them…
Join the community, have some fun, tune into playful bubbly energy and discover that everything you need is right behind and infront of your eyes!
I challenge you this week to find how you can introduce some play back into your life and let me know what that might look like for you? As adults we are often shamed for not taking life seriously enough but hear me when I say this… Your Hero only knows how to play and wants to co create a playful experience with you. Become a happy learner and enjoy whatever life brings your way because that's what your Hero wants for you. True Peace of mind.
I'll see you at the top of the next mountain Hero! Happy climbing
Alchemo